Dubai vacation.. Update and Highlights 1

Happy New Year mommies!

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I have been off the internet for quite some time due to internet issues with my lap top. But now it’s fixed and it’s time for an update.

My flight got delayed royally, it was not fun to be stuck at the airport with a kid who desperately wanted to just land in Dubai. This made the plane journey even more exhausting for me.

Dubai is great, the weather is awesome, for me it’s an experience of mixed emotions. I get slightly depressed just absorbing the goodness of a developed country, a country I was born and raised in. And i definitely can’t help comparing it to the rape nation.

The highlights thus far have been:

1. Being able to get out whenever, and walk without having to think 100 times about safety. I have taken the Dubai metro, I have ridden the public transport. Got a Nol card too, makes me feel so empowered. Ive gotten home back after 3 AM, with my brother/s. Nothing I can do in Hyderabad ever!

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2. Batools loving the exposure to outside, we haven’t done anything specific for her yet, but she’s enjoying spontaneous outings with the family

3. 31st was great day, I got my much wanted casual outerwear from HnM. We went for a dinner and drive. Batool was taken care of by my mom. Also I have ruled out that I do not enjoy steak.

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4. Dubai makes me think about moving here. But life isn’t up to me.

5. Watched Horrible Bosses 2 at VOX in the MOE  Highly recommend it. The movie is insane, and its the kind of comedy movies you can watch multiple times, cos the jokes and acting is all too good.

6.  I finally wore my new studded flats, I was too scared to wear them in Hyd.

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6. My bros cam is great for selfies. Took this one at the union station

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I shall be posting highlights all throughout my trip apart from my regular posts. Have a positive year everyone!

Why so dependant?

There are all types of women in the world, but when you become a mother, when you do the mothering you change. I believe there is something that takes over, a form of dependency. Because we spend endless amounts of time taking care of a little person who is dependent on us, we want similar pampering, we want similar over the top love. We forget we are adults and supposed to take care of ourselves.

Within India, I find so many girls that look forward to the yearly vacation or monthly escape to their moms homes. That’s a sorry way to live. It’s sad, and against everything an adult should be. We forget that life is about everyday not the few days of vacation with the parents and siblings. Why does it become so difficult for us to take a stand and demand a few minutes of peace everyday? Why can’t we have a vacation where our true family now is?. It’s an Indian thing, no matter where in the world you go, Indians want the extra mommy love, no matter how old they are. And here’s where the double standard also come in, as women we want the mommy escape, and given a choice maybe all of us would live with our moms forever, but when our husbands want the same; it seems off. Lets both get independent, independence is not a gender specific characteristic. Lets both become sufficient for each other, take from the parents the extra not everything. Lets make each day our everything, lets focus on growing together. Lets stay positive.

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Happiness is where you want it to be, there will always be hurdles in life, and your mom isn’t going to be around all your life shielding you. Instill values of independence in both your sons and daughters, so that they are stable human beings able to handle what life brings their way. Why be dependent? Why not be happy instead?