Let’s celebrate Passing the HAP course!

I finished my course at HAP!! Yayii!. Received the certificate of the same on Saturday 12th, And boy was that day hectic. I know what you’re thinking! I constantly talk about my busy schedules, I am sure it’s getting monotonous at this point. Keeping this in mind I shall move on to what I wanted to actually write about. I treated myself with some online shopping.


Note the excitement on the daughters face! That’s just ‘zoom into pricelessness moment’ She was roaring “Yayiiiii”



Appreciating oneself is a habit I am still developing, but when I found out that I was actually truly passing I had this intense feeling of treating myself. All the hard work, running around, studying, maintaining sanity while balancing the many responsibilities that I did, I just had to acknowledge my efforts. The icing on the cake was that I topped the last exam which was a paper submission! Felt great, that sense of accomplishment I have never felt, never topped anything! hehe

Anyway so this is what I did, I bought some make-up, a wallet, and shoes (which are on the way).



The experience of the course was great, in one word I would describe the course ‘insightful’ apart from the academic learning that took place you really do get to explore yourself, and become more aware of your behaviour and that of others. I have met some really special people, from various walks of life, women who inspire me and will continue to be part of my life. Even though I didn’t perform to my potential, there’s a lot I have learned to do better in the future in other ventures in my life.


Dr.Diana is a great teacher, and an inspiring role model, for her high ethical standards of practice, passion for her field, and the unconditional positive regard she gives to us as her students. I highly recommend this course for all students who are in the field of psychology to broaden their view of the field, and get exposure to new thinking and learning.

The next target is to wind up my PGDiploma from IHMH. That should be a call for another mini shopping spree I guess!

Working on your day off

One of the bad things about the internet life is we truly can’t escape our work. Email notifications are the death. Today was my day off, and even though I had scheduled two group counseling sessions, I cancelled for two reasons

  1. I realised it was a dumb decision to schedule work on my day off
  2. I wasn’t feeling too good, and me friend was free to meet up

And so I had a fun time catching up with her, even though we were in the car most of the time, drove to IGNOU and then BRAOU, wasn’t a fruitful strip except I figured I can’t or don’t want to do the courses they offered.

Since there was still time for me to get back to school and pick up the daughter, we figured we should grab a snack, and long story short we had a thick shake. And boy was it yummy!


Drove back to school picked up Batool and sure enough, got some work done. It’s inescapable. As long as we have e-mails, we will get sucked into work. I believe this also happens when you work part time while everyone at school is going about their full week of work. Even then, it’s unavoidable. I just can’t seem to draw boundaries and not work. This has become very apparent as well now, when your friends and colleagues start categorising you as a “workaholic” you can no longer deny that!

Don’t know if I will ever be that person who can segregate, set a schedule. Actually I don’t know if I ever want to be that person. Give performance a very high priority, and while it may result in a heap-full of tiredness, and sacrifices I guess for me it’s all worth it. It’s obviously bringing about some satisfaction isn’t it?

WOM: Posts thus far Part 1

Hello Mommies I had mentioned a previous blog post that I have started writing at World of Moms. I recommend all mommies to join WOM if you haven’t already. I have written 4 posts thus far and was wondering how I could I organise and share them with all of you readers who may not be on the website . So I decided to share the links of 4 or 5 posts when they’re published here all together in one post. So it’s easier for me to keep track and convenient for all you mommies to read up.

So here’s my first installment and the following are my posts:

1. Talking Divorce with your child .Books can help

2. Routine Building

3. The student Mommy

4. Book Overview: None the Number by Oliver Jeffers

I hope you enjoy reading the above posts, do leave your suggestions in the comments below and share the love..

The week that was too fast and life update

This week went fast!…Super fast. I have gotten into the school rhythm of my daughter and myself. Making to-do notes for each day she’s at school so I can catch up with everything I have piled up. Organising never ends. Trust me!. But the more I get done the more productive I feel.

Tomorrow is Saturday and I am taking a much needed break, alone. Have a tonne of work to accomplish (this always happens). When I am exhausted and desperately want a day out for myself, I tend to have a heap of work to do as well. But staying positive, I shall chillax and be alone and I’m not quite sure what I will do, but am just glad I’m going to be getting some peace. Both my buddies are busy, so it’s just me.

Now getting to the update, diploma officially starts July 1st, and it’s one serious diploma, with dead lines and a long list of assignments/submissions. Am I excited? HELL YEA!

I am also looking into starting my masters as soon as I’m done with my diploma. I don’t like the idea of doing your degrees like your school, however the aim is to be PhD by 30! so…..Anyway, was looking at colleges and MSc psychology is available at Ambedkar Open university. But the website doesn’t have detailed information on the course, will have to go there myself and check out. Also I don’t know anyone personally who is studying from there to get inside information on that.

Madras university was a bit of a nightmare. And just the fact that it’s in Chennai, no matter how “good” it may be, it’s just not practical, the Indian education system is way too screwed up for students who genuinely want to study. The curriculum was fine, but the books were hideous, too many errors, the centers don’t notify students promptly, the results are a joke, there’s no guidance whatsoever, communication is slow and via post which makes it insanely ridiculous. It’s all just too stressful. People who opt for distance education are looking for non-stressful ways to education, because they’re already busy with other responsibilities/commitments. And don’t get me wrong, working hard is different from being stressed due to irresponsible behaviour n the part of the university. I am all for working hard.

I am half considering masters from outside India (a girl can dream can’t she?).

Life is going fine, I’ve been slacking on my blogging, and it’s partly because the week is flying by! (Excuses excuses) hehe. I have to get my blogging more organised.

The back burner life

When you just hear the confirming news of pregnancy, everything in life takes a back seat. We as women, let me correct that Indian or Hyderabadi women tend to shift everything to the back burner, surround ourselves with baby thoughts, baby shopping, baby everything even before it’s born. We throw ourselves out of the window like we never existed.

And years later…..many many years later when the kids are off to college or married and settled, we wonder who we are. I’ve noticed younger moms tend to get these thoughts way earlier than moms of past. We leave everything, abandon our identities, our to-do list of life becomes a mere wishlist. But why?, why do we assume defeat so easily? Why do we not pause between the nappy changes and think. Why do we not think about our lives, because lets face it, a happy mom, a content mom is a great emotional support for any child. We don’t realise that by giving up our lifes goals we become bitter inside, we change, we are resentful, frustrated. Not to the mention the unsolicited spice of the extended family, friends or cousins that adds to our misery and negative thoughts.

The bottom line is, there are two burners in the front, try to balance, try to give yourself priority once in a while. Try to balance, be happy, be content, be stable, be YOU. Our kids are living a different life, they will ask us why we made the choices we did in life, they will be bombarded with thoughts from their peers of what does your mom do, or what did your mom give up. Lets make sacrifice very clear from accepting defeat. There’s no need to give up every single dream, and goal in the name of ‘sacrifice’. Children grow up and within a couple of years are independent. They don’t need the amount of crazy that you are willing to ‘sacrifice’ and provide for them. The more independent you make your kid the better off they will be.

The best mother is the one who is a good support no matter where in the world the child is, no matter where in the world she herself is. We live in a world where modes of communication are abundantly available. We live in a world that demands us to look beyond our society, beyond our unchanging mind set, beyond the negativity we surround ourselves with. If you can’t do exactly what you want to, there are always bridges you can cross slowly till the children are ready for you to go full time with your passion. And this isn’t about a job, it’s about anything you like, reading a book, meditating,studying, doing crafts, decorating the house, volunteer work, doing social work anything. You are liberated as a mom, not a slave of the tag. Do what you like.

My point is that there’s no excuse. The world is already sad place and we don’t need sad moms to add to that. We need happy moms, satisfied moms, emotionally stable moms, moms who are role models and an inspiration to others; not a sad story based on sacrifice. You control your decisions, you control your happiness, your control your life. Control the amount of giving and taking, take control of you.