A minimalistic life- Rambling away

I despise clutter. Over the years I have truly found my style, I used to be a total tomboy layering clothes, mixing and matching, this was reflected not just in my clothes but also my room, study table etc. But I have changed, Pinterest can do wonders to your taste, and add motherhood to the chaos and you know you have to cut down on everything.

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It’s difficult though, I have mastered the art of donating or simply getting rid of things, I try not to think too much, the more you think the more time you give yourself to change your mind. My mother has this issue, I did too, sentimental attachment to everything. Saris, broken watches, books, rusted picture frames, old fashioned bags etc. the list is endless. My mom can’t part from spoons, water classes etc as well. I hoarded too, but that was more like a habit, I wasn’t consciously keeping any of the things I did keep, there was no reason, no ‘sentimental attachment’ nothing, It was just the way I was raised I guess. But I am not like that anymore. And boy am I glad. In the end you’re not going to take all of that to grave, there will be so much confusion for your children to sort through the junk you left behind. The more you hoard the more you hoard, there’s no two ways about it.

I’ve realised the only practical way to live is to live like a minimalist, and I struggle the most in the wardrobe. Us Indian women have two wardrobes, Indian and Western. That’s a lot of wardrobe to manage, not only is it financially annoying, it is super difficult to maintain no matter how big your closet is. I hardly wear Indian ethnic wear, so I take all joy in distributing and donating it all away, but right now I’ve come to a point where it’s too much. Everything I have is either new, or I like a lot, or will definitely get a lot of wear out of. Yet the quantity is large, not to mention my mom buys me Indian wear, I don’t shop for any of it, I have no taste in that genre of clothing. Every time she comes from Dubai and reminds of a particular dress my mind goes “oh oh! I gave it away”. And with clothes you just can’t say ‘ I misplaced it’ like a freaking pen. Then it’s a big blasting from her, can you blame her? So I tried to nip it in the bid this time she came, I told her to stop buying me clothes period, unless I specifically ask her to get anything, I extended that request to Batools clothing too. She has a tendency to not just buy a set but a whole suitcase!. She didn’t take that very well, but I guess it’s the only way. I can’t be forced into hoarding, and ‘not having enough space’ is not good enough for her. To her my western wardrobe is useless, and vice versa for me!

Point being, your home, flat, bungalow, castle or whatever it is you reside in, should be clutter free. It should only contain what is necessary. You will always have money to spend on important things, plus you’ll never have to feel like you have constantly sort through junk. Hoarding usually starts when you already have a lot of junk and just don’t now where to put it, so you just let be, because it’s too much hassle to figure out what to do with it, the thought of throwing it away simply doesn’t occur, or seems very difficult to digest. Here’s what I’ve learned:

1. Monthly cleaning always works, especially if you’re a mom, children grow out of their clothing super fast, it’s best to only keep those things that you want to give to your child when they grow older for memory sake, everything else should get donated. You can always buy more clothes when your next baby comes, till then many many children can benefit from them.

2. Purchase only what’s essential for your kids, we are made to believe kids require a load of clothes, when they don’t. Wash the clothes frequently buy good quality clothes or clothes on sale. The child won’t complain, and when they grow up look back and complain it’s going to be too late anyway 😉

3. Don’t buy anything for the purpose of storing it, like books unless you already have plenty space available and know exactly what you’re planning to do with them few years down the line. Donating books to your local school library is great. Even your childs books, they grow out of their books too. It will be a while before your kids have books they can store too.

4. Manage your space, look at how much space you already have in your house before deciding to keep things. You have space of one shoe rack but you want to keep 20 pairs, it’s going to make you mad.

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5. Buy only what you can store. don’t buy clothes before buying hangers to hang them, don’t buy shoes without making space to keep them etc.

6. If there are things you haven’t used for over a year, even if it’s a knife, chances are you didn’t need it in the first place, GIVE IT AWAY.

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7. Get used to giving things away, in the end they are just things. non-living things.

I am trying to get my daughter to be minimalist. If you only need one box of crayons, then she will get only one and be responsible for it, I will of course keep in hiding a spare box. But the child should learn to value what she/he has. Toys too, most kids have too much toys, too much of left overs from many games, get rid of the half missing pieces, they just add clutter. The child too gets confused about what to do with random pieces of toys from various kits.

8. Teach them to organise their toys after play, not just put them in one place organise them. All toys should first go into their respective bags/boxes/cans/ etc before they are thrown into the main toy box or room. This is HW for you, make sure there are different boxes for each toy set. The kitchen set shouldn’t mingle with the animals, there’s no logic to it. Jigsaw puzzles should always go into a box or (I love) zip lock bags. The boxes in which toys actually come in are useless, they break apart in two seconds. Unless they’re the ones with the screw on tops or containers, keep those. Don’t expect the kid to manage random cardboard boxes, it’s not going to happen. Plastic is the best, a trip to your local ‘china bazar’ should do it, get cheap ones, nothing expensive or airtight required 😉

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The earlier in life we teach our kids about a minimalistic life the better more self sufficient they will be. There’s not doubt about there will always be things we will have when we don’t need, as long as we have the strength to let go of them when need be it’s fine.

 

Huge Haul. City center and GVK. Makeup, school supplies, shoes, books

I have a headache, I am having cold, hence a heavy head. But today was shoppCAM01862ing day. Some important things to purchase, some crazy indulges. All in all, I am surprised at my capability to spend so much in one day. I feel good. No more shopping for me for at-least a six months. Lets get started, I shall go in the order of my shops. I mainly hit City center and GVK One today (in that order)

First stop Fooba Wooba

We’re having some weddings lined up from the coming week. Batool desperately needed some part footwear. This one is golden, the camera isn’t doing justice to the glamorous look of the shoe. But I love it.

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Second stop SivaShakti Garments (that’s what it says on the bill) I’m sure the names catchier than that!

Got these posters, they had a great collection, good quality. You can hang or stick them. Rs.80 a piece, not bad at all for the quality and content. There is print on both sides, which is fabulous it’s like getting two posters in one. And it’s super thick glazed quality, which means it won’t rip off!

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Water bottle (2 months into school and she already broke hers) and milk bottle

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This one has a twist opening and a straw. As you can see, the daughter was already too eager to start using it. So I poured her some milk.

last at this shop was a towel for her school snack bag. Got Yellow as it matches her lunch bad.

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Third stop, Max. I was looking for a silver shoe for Batool (again for them weddings). Didn’t find one but got myself a top/Kurti (sneaky me). And also a pack of socks for the hubby (nothing interesting so no images!)

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I loved the colour mainly, and that it has buttons going down all the way, it’s bright but not crazy. Max had a lot of florescent colours in their Indian wear-too loud for my taste. Plan to wear this to school soon.

Fourth stop Crosswords. How can a trip to city center be complete without a browse through at crosswords. I was mainly looking for a water bottle for myself. This one is simple, and big enough to keep me hydrated through the school day.

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I picked up two books for my friends son, as a gift for Eid. But then I can’t help myself so I went ahead and got Batool two books as well . This Dictionary is amazing, I’ve been wanting something like this for a while now. It was only for Rs.300. It is hardcover with thick good quality pages and lovely images and descriptions. Beyond satisfied!

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Also picked up a book from the Bruno series, this purchase leaves Batool with only one unowned. I think I’ll buy it on Flipkart.

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 I also got myself this reading light which i desperately need. I am unable to read at night because of the absence of light. Batool is fast asleep by 10 it’s the best time for to read. It clips to your book or e-reader and illuminates without causing trouble to people around. It was available in blue and white I think, but I got girlie in this purchase hehe. This baby was for Rs.700. I have to admit, I’ve never noticed these type of things anywhere else. Crosswords stocks good products.

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Fifth stop Health and Glow. Here is where I went a little too crazy I was only looking for three nail polishes from the Maybelline ‘Glitter Mania’ Collection, an eyelash curler, nail polish remover, and the Lame Absolute bronzer. I got only one of the three nail polishes but also picked up three other random ones, an eye liner and a concealer. The Lakme Absolute bronzer is history apparently, and they didn’t have any other bronzer in the whole of Health and Glow. What a shame.

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The red one in the center is the one I wanted and got at Health and Glow. Other two I picked up from GVK. Didn’t really have a concealer on my list but got one. I don’t own one currently, and my dark circles are crying for one.

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I will review this in the coming week. Will also do swatches of the Maybelline nail polishes in detail.

Sixth stop Me n Moms, now I was about to leave, was getting tired from the cold and running around, also the excitement of shopping so much was making me crazy. But my gut was saying ‘Syeda just check out Me n Moms’ and so I did and the result; unreasonably expensive shoes for the daughter. Was I relieved that I had that under control? Hell Yes!

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I then headed out, called my mom to get a status on my daughter and after getting the soothing news of her safe and happy state I thought let’s head to GVK and strike off all that’s on my shopping list (believe me there was more).

GVK I entered like a mother on a mission, up the stairs and took the right directly into Shoppers Stop. Headed to the Maybelline counter to get my other two nail polishes, got them!, went over to Lakme and again heard that the bronzer has been discontinued. Asked at Bourjois for bronzer, all they had weren’t matte. Moved on to The Body Shop, their honey bronzer was too light. I am glad I didn’t get sucked into buying that. The sales girl however took me to the Givenchy counter, to which I said no! I am not going to buy make-up for hobby from Givenchy! I eventually arrived at the Shiseido counter, and when she said the bronzer costed 2k I told her that’s too much for someone like me. Sicilia the lovely lady who at the counter insisted on a light application and I fell in love. I thought heck! It’s going to last me a life time. She too said that it was like an investment, good quality, won’t expire for another 3 years. So I bought it. And I don’t regret it.

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Shall do a review with swatches on this later. I tried it at home too, it’s lovely, super easy to apply, especially for me- My first time playing with a bronzer you see. Note worthy point here is that Sicilia had applied the BB cream on my whole face prior to the bronzer application. And my skin felt amazing. I’ve noticed a difference in my skin, even though she cleaned it all off. I am making a mental note to explore more from the brand. I’ve only owned their matte lipstick till date.

Ending the ramble and moving on I got my face cleaned, picked up a pair of sandals from Haute Curry and ran out to come back home. Mind you they were on sale, got them for Rs.800. Note! they were cheaper than Batools! I was actually looking for shoes in gold, but by the time I got to the shoe section I thought ‘chuck it’ it’s only going to be used for weddings and I don’t attend many, so no point being picky and choosy and paying too much. Plus I was already exhausted with the pricing on Batools shoes, I just thought the cheapest would do!.

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This day has ended with me feeling extremely worldly. I went over board no doubt. The online shopping thing is also being a buzz for me. I have to stop shopping period. I believe it’s a phase, a phase in which I haven’t been in for a very long time (In Dubai I went crazy which was almost 2 years ago). And I guess it’s fine to just let go once in a while. Excuses Excuses!

Have you been hauling lately? Any recommendations from Shiseido?