Uncertainty

If there’s one thing that scares the human soul it’s uncertainty. Regardless of how much knowledge we have of the inevitable, no matter how many plans we make and how much we try to work on them, there’s always that doubt. There’s always going to be that uncertainty of how things will go, where our lives are headed etc.

Today was a good day, went out with the siblings, chilled, played bowling, Batool enjoyed it too. There are a couple of things running in my mind at the time, I am loving this break from life I am getting in Dubai. And as much as I am ready to face the challenges of a single mother, there’s always that doubt, that need to want to know the future, to know that all is going to be fine. At these times I remind myself to strengthen my faith in God.

Well, I was scrolling on my Facebook page, for some inspiration and came across this image

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I couldn’t help but share it, looked for the whole chapter and read the translation. And wow! am I relieved! There’s nothing like an open conversation with your Creator. And this just lifted up my spirits. It is always good to know that your God has not and never will forsake you. As human beings we are constantly reminded of our dependency on others, and it can take a toll on the strongest of us.  And as a mother I feel the need to always be strong for Batool, and constantly give out positive energy, be the best role model of faith, determination, hard-work and clarity.

Life isn’t easy, but it’s good to know that there’s someone always watching you, and that verily the future will have better in store so long as the intentions are clean.

Teaching your children to give back

When a stranger asks your child what they like the most about their parents, the answer shouldn’t be that ‘mom and dad get me toys, or clothes or whatever I like’. Your significance in your childs life shouldn’t be based on material things, they should look beyond that, (appreciate it for sure) but look beyond and know their parents. It’s the character of the parents that will forever have him attached to you, not the material things, because eventually the child will become an adult and afford those things, where would that leave you?

ImageOne way you can teach how to appreciate what they have is to get them involved in doing charity/volunteer work, have them pick out what they should get rid of, and the manners of doing so. There are several ways you can donate, it’s always good to find a reliable organisation to give your donated things to, that way you will be certain that they will deliver the things in appropriate manner. A good donating campaign going on right now is the ‘share the love campaign’ by Johnsons baby I was pleased on receiving their emails on sharing this with my moms/readers. This initiative aims at encouraging mothers all over India to contribute old or unused items of their children to underprivileged children. For this specific project, Johnsons has partnered with and NGO, GOONJ. This campaign enables less fortunate children to experience the ‘joy of childhood’, Being in the education field I recognise the importance of play in the mental development of a child. What seems to us adults of hours of playing is actually a very educating process for the children. It’s obvious that the less privileged kids of our country aren’t getting the right standard of education too, so not only will giving them these toys will help them enjoy but also in learning.

ImageThis campaign started first in 2012 and has been a great contributor to various cities across India. Their aim became to bring some colour into the lives of aanganwadi children, sick children, children struck by natural disasters. And this year the collection centers are situated in 14 cities and Hyderabad is on the list. Other cities include Mumbai, Delhi, Bangalore, Kolkata, Chennai, Ahmedabad, Cuttack, Pune, etc. There are several touch points located across these cities, you just simply have to give a missed call on 1800 267 6767/ 1800 267 2222. You will be guided to the nearest collection center. This campaign will run for 3 weekends in a row so you have plenty time to gather up the items for donation and inform others about it too. The method of processing is very organised, each day all the donated items in the drop box are taken to the nearest Goonj Collection Centers. Here they are cleaned, sorted, pressed then they are transported to the local Goonj center and given to the needful.

So mommies, think wisely, you want to donate toys, books, clothes, even buy things if you can afford to. Take your child along with you for the purchase, make them pick out toys, convince them to let-go of certain items that you know they don’t need or play with anymore. Involve them as much as possible, take pictures, make it a memory, let your child know how important it is and that it’s something he/she is expected to do as a good human all their life.

Support Johnsons baby intiative and GOONJ on facebook and have a humble life.

Why so dependant?

There are all types of women in the world, but when you become a mother, when you do the mothering you change. I believe there is something that takes over, a form of dependency. Because we spend endless amounts of time taking care of a little person who is dependent on us, we want similar pampering, we want similar over the top love. We forget we are adults and supposed to take care of ourselves.

Within India, I find so many girls that look forward to the yearly vacation or monthly escape to their moms homes. That’s a sorry way to live. It’s sad, and against everything an adult should be. We forget that life is about everyday not the few days of vacation with the parents and siblings. Why does it become so difficult for us to take a stand and demand a few minutes of peace everyday? Why can’t we have a vacation where our true family now is?. It’s an Indian thing, no matter where in the world you go, Indians want the extra mommy love, no matter how old they are. And here’s where the double standard also come in, as women we want the mommy escape, and given a choice maybe all of us would live with our moms forever, but when our husbands want the same; it seems off. Lets both get independent, independence is not a gender specific characteristic. Lets both become sufficient for each other, take from the parents the extra not everything. Lets make each day our everything, lets focus on growing together. Lets stay positive.

Image courtesy Happinessnslavery.

Happiness is where you want it to be, there will always be hurdles in life, and your mom isn’t going to be around all your life shielding you. Instill values of independence in both your sons and daughters, so that they are stable human beings able to handle what life brings their way. Why be dependent? Why not be happy instead?