Blogging for World of Moms

Long time!! I know, I have been super busy getting life on track. Multi-tasking away.

I will be heading for vacation to Dubai on 27th and boy am I excited!.

One of the many things I have been doing is actively blogging on a great website. The World of Moms team approached me to join their portal and also contribute regularly as a blogger. This website is a must join for all smart moms out there who want to mingle with other like minded mothers out there. I would describe World of moms as the Facebook of mothers. It is easy to signup for, browse and explore the lives of many moms out there.

Here’s my first post for them on routine building. I will be blogging on a weekly basis, so stay tuned to this blog, my facebook page or simply follow me on the website!

What summer plans do you have?

Spreading Smile Collection by Sarfaraz Banatwala

This post is about spreading the love. Yes, sharing good things so that everyone can enjoy them. My Oh so talented friend Sarfaraz (who is also a Doctor BTW), has been putting his creative side IMG-20141206-WA0005to work. And wow! the custom made products he has to offer.

Spreading Smile Collection is a one stop center for customised gifts.  He described the aesthetic of his business as; “adding a personalised touch of human emotions to your gifts”.

You should note that all these items are hand made and bespoke. And they’re made based on your budget, so there’s no need to hesitate to share a special gift with anyone. These gifts are made on prior orders only, they’re made for each client separately, so ordering is a must.

There are a variety of products in his collection:

1. Handmade scrapbooks- these scrap books are available in two sizes a mini size anIMG-20141204-WA0005d an A4. You just have to work up your budget and explain what you’re envisioning as the end result and Sarfaraz will do all the magic. This is especially great if you’re trying to celebrate a relationship, or a phase in your life. I can’t wait to get one made for Batool for her upcoming 5th birthday.

2. Hanging wall signs- Fun and quirky wall hanging signs for a friend or yourself

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3. Message boxes- This is great for the festive season coming up, share with your friends and loved ones for valentines day. Let them know how much you love them

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4. Photo Collage- Customised photo collage, this is the favourite amongst most of his clients. Family photos, favourite instagram pics, any theme you want, it will be decorated tastefully and customised to your liking.

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5. Messages on playing cards- This is a cute way to express your feelings or have random quotes of jokes all on a deck of cards, share them with friends, or go through them for inspiration

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6. Customised chocolate box- An assortment of chocolates in a one of a kind customised box is a great gift. Who doesn’t like chocolates?

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7. Photo Bouquet- This is the most unique idea, we’re obsessed with pics and a photo bouquet is such a fun way to display your pics and gift them to a special someone.IMG-20141205-WA0050

If you’re interested, contact:+918297545752 and share the love…

heading the e-book way and reading update

It’s been long since I posted a reading update. I had made and list and everything, but I have to start working on sticking to schedules.

Anyway, the autobiography of Helen Keller was too dry for me to pick up everyday and want to read. I then decided to make a book purchase, but felt guilty. The problem was there was no time for book reading except at night right before dozing off, and my lovely daughter broke my little reading light. And I decided to venture into the e-book zone and see if it’s any good. And was I glad! Instead of wasting time watching random videos on youtube, I found the perfect solution to my no reading issue. I purchased ‘Adultery’ by Paulo Coelho, downloaded the Flipkart e-books app on my tablet.

I don’t recommend this book at all. I skipped through insanely boring paragraphs about Geneva and some historic crap, the ending is just stupid. It has very low moral value and presents the concept of adultery in the positive light. I don’t like it when authors or celebrities or anyone emphasise on ‘love’ so much that they tend to not bother about what’s right and wrong. We’re not animals, we’re human beings. Anyway, I didn’t enjoy the way it was written also. It wasn’t all that gripping, and half way through I was just reading it to finish it.

I personally feel our lives are too small to always look for ways to get lost, it’s important that we are reminded of our purpose in life which is beyond ‘love’. Anyone who believes in anything more than themselves will know the importance of thinking about others, and living  life that ends with a purpose.

Anyway I guess all of us expect different things from books. I just don’t enjoy hypocrisy.

Have you read this book?

BTW i just bought my next e-book, a rather impulsive purchase keeping in mind I should be working on my submissions. And it’s:

What have you been reading?

Moving forward leaving FB behind

I have been under a dark spell these couple of days. There are many decisions we make in life, and don’t regret, however over time negativity gets attached to them when we look around and get exposed to the world. Life isn’t meant to be all candy floss but we as humans always tend to want perfection. Perceived perfection of anothers life is the worst, it gives rise to unrealistic hopes which eventually take over your emotions and leave you confused and lost.

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Thinking regularly, pondering over life, trying to pick up on patterns of stupidity help us to be wiser. I am a big fan of thinking. And I realised that finding time was becoming an issue with each passing day, and my list of to-dos be it domestic or personal were just increasing. Facebook has been taking up a lot of that time. Meaningless, unfruitful browsing. I decided to quit, just to see if it makes any difference. And it did, within just an hour, when I didn’t have that tab to open anymore, I started to browse for information, read more, explored the internet, spent time with the daughter. I felt good that I didn’t get any updates on the fabulous life of the many “friends” I had on my list. It’s sad when we live our lives just to show them off on the web. We are deliberately making an effort to live the life of a show off, with good or bad intentions, doesn’t matter. We have been consumed by taking pics for the sake of posting them up, we are losing moments trying to capture them on film, and eagerly tweet/fb/instagram them. We are living moments via the net, and it’s not normal, it’s not human and it’s not fun. It’s just not.

What was bothering me was the bombardment of information that I wasn’t keen on receiving, there isn’t envy when I see fellow school mates succeed. But there’s a pinch, the question of ‘what are you doing?’ and ‘what have you accomplished?’ and I realised that I don’t deserve to scrutinize myself. Truth is my age mates don’t understand what I have accomplished because they’re only now getting married (at-least most of them). They can’t appreciate or value motherhood, the hardwork that goes into it, the level of accomplishment that it is. And I can’t blame them, and I am happy that they’re entering marriage when they’re stable, emotionally happy and ready for it. Then again, I don’t need to build issues, and then waste time trying to resolve them. It’s not practical, it’s not what I need in my life. And as adults, life is a series of constant decision making, and the older you get the more complex these decisions become, the more effect they have on others and most importantly they start defining you more.

I realised that I am way more happy to live in my bubble than be consumed by other people and their lives. I don’t have a lot of friends in Hyderabad, actually I can count them on my fingers, on one hand! But I don’t need friends sitting in a different country who can’t benefit me in anyway. We are connected via news through fb, but in reality half of us don’t give a shit. We would take maybe 2 minutes out of our lives, if we found out a fb friend died. Harsh truth, it’s bitter, it’s a reality bite. You want to surround yourself with happiness, and love, not the illusion of happiness and love that the internet provides. Anyway, my philosophical self is happier without fb.

I am moving forward, and focusing on myself, as it is being a mom takes that whole segment off your brain, it’s a whole exercise that requires warm up and appointments with your brain to think about your own happiness and life. I speak of fb as though it’s a breakup,hehe but it’s just been a weighing chapter of my life that I want to close and never revisit. I don’t have time in my life for that, I only have time for me and my family and happiness.

Teaching your children to give back

When a stranger asks your child what they like the most about their parents, the answer shouldn’t be that ‘mom and dad get me toys, or clothes or whatever I like’. Your significance in your childs life shouldn’t be based on material things, they should look beyond that, (appreciate it for sure) but look beyond and know their parents. It’s the character of the parents that will forever have him attached to you, not the material things, because eventually the child will become an adult and afford those things, where would that leave you?

ImageOne way you can teach how to appreciate what they have is to get them involved in doing charity/volunteer work, have them pick out what they should get rid of, and the manners of doing so. There are several ways you can donate, it’s always good to find a reliable organisation to give your donated things to, that way you will be certain that they will deliver the things in appropriate manner. A good donating campaign going on right now is the ‘share the love campaign’ by Johnsons baby I was pleased on receiving their emails on sharing this with my moms/readers. This initiative aims at encouraging mothers all over India to contribute old or unused items of their children to underprivileged children. For this specific project, Johnsons has partnered with and NGO, GOONJ. This campaign enables less fortunate children to experience the ‘joy of childhood’, Being in the education field I recognise the importance of play in the mental development of a child. What seems to us adults of hours of playing is actually a very educating process for the children. It’s obvious that the less privileged kids of our country aren’t getting the right standard of education too, so not only will giving them these toys will help them enjoy but also in learning.

ImageThis campaign started first in 2012 and has been a great contributor to various cities across India. Their aim became to bring some colour into the lives of aanganwadi children, sick children, children struck by natural disasters. And this year the collection centers are situated in 14 cities and Hyderabad is on the list. Other cities include Mumbai, Delhi, Bangalore, Kolkata, Chennai, Ahmedabad, Cuttack, Pune, etc. There are several touch points located across these cities, you just simply have to give a missed call on 1800 267 6767/ 1800 267 2222. You will be guided to the nearest collection center. This campaign will run for 3 weekends in a row so you have plenty time to gather up the items for donation and inform others about it too. The method of processing is very organised, each day all the donated items in the drop box are taken to the nearest Goonj Collection Centers. Here they are cleaned, sorted, pressed then they are transported to the local Goonj center and given to the needful.

So mommies, think wisely, you want to donate toys, books, clothes, even buy things if you can afford to. Take your child along with you for the purchase, make them pick out toys, convince them to let-go of certain items that you know they don’t need or play with anymore. Involve them as much as possible, take pictures, make it a memory, let your child know how important it is and that it’s something he/she is expected to do as a good human all their life.

Support Johnsons baby intiative and GOONJ on facebook and have a humble life.