Why juggle so many duties? and update on study life

I’ve always been someone who has to have my plate full. I need to be constantly doing something, constantly looking forward to a project, anything. Being in Hyderabad has taught be the importance of being this busy. It’s the only way you can avoid politics, gossip chains, your mind won’t allow you time for those thoughts to creep in. I am hence, allergic to being free. Frankly I rather complain about ‘not having enough time’ to complete the many tasks I have at hand, than be free enough to meddle in others’ business.

Having said that, I shall give you an update on my latest addition, my one year diploma in School Psychology started in July, and it’s from IHMH. I am over the moon about this one, it’s nothing like how my graduation was. The diploma has been drafted in such a way that you are compelled to study and it pushes the student to explore their potential. I am totally psyched.

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Those are the first two books that arrived through mail. I LOVE studying, it’s the best feeling in the world. I regard myself as a student for life, I want to constantly keep studying, and it’s not for theĀ  certificates, but the triggering of mind, and truly learning as a student. Plus I get to shop for stationery and study supplies which I love too! šŸ˜‰

So why be this busy? There are times when I want people around me to process the many duties and responsibilities I juggle, give me some space, try to understand the tornado that runs on my head on a regular basis. But then I have to remind myself that I chose this type of life, I decided to keep this busy, I believe I can do it. Expecting from people to go out of their way to understand is irrational, because no matter what they can never comprehend the importance of these things in my life. People (in India) typically have the attitude of end everything after marriage, ‘you don’t need to study’ especially when you have a kid. But the fact is those are not the reasons why people should study in the first place, education is about overall development of your personality, so logically it should never end.

I am the first to encourage anyone irrespective of their age to keep pursuing some form of education, even if it is in their hobby areas, (crafts class, a culinary course, reading clubs) no matter what you will be afford to get something included into your life. And just being a part of something so fruitful is pure joy.

That’s the reason why I juggle, I feel 24 hours are meant to accomplish more than a few tasks each day. And with experience I’ve realised that; the more you include into your day the more you feel there’s time for more activities. There’s no excuse. 24 hours are a great responsibility we have towards ourselves, there’s always time for more, Always.

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Teaching your children to give back

When a stranger asks your child what they like the most about their parents, the answer shouldn’t be that ‘mom and dad get me toys, or clothes or whatever I like’. Your significance in your childs life shouldn’t be based on material things, they should look beyond that, (appreciate it for sure) but look beyond and know their parents. It’s the character of the parents that will forever have him attached to you, not the material things, because eventually the child will become an adult and afford those things, where would that leave you?

ImageOne way you can teach how to appreciate what they have is to get them involved in doing charity/volunteer work, have them pick out what they should get rid of, and the manners of doing so. There are several ways you can donate, it’s always good to find a reliable organisation to give your donated things to, that way you will be certain that they will deliver the things in appropriate manner. A good donating campaign going on right now is the ‘share the love campaign’ by Johnsons baby I was pleased on receiving their emails on sharing this with my moms/readers. This initiative aims at encouraging mothers all over India to contribute old or unused items of their children to underprivileged children. For this specific project, Johnsons has partnered with and NGO, GOONJ. This campaign enables less fortunate children to experience the ‘joy of childhood’, Being in the education field I recognise the importance of play in the mental development of a child. What seems to us adults of hours of playing is actually a very educating process for the children. It’s obvious that the less privileged kids of our country aren’t getting the right standard of education too, so not only will giving them these toys will help them enjoy but also in learning.

ImageThis campaign started first in 2012 and has been a great contributor to various cities across India. Their aim became to bring some colour into the lives of aanganwadi children, sick children, children struck by natural disasters. And this year the collection centers are situated in 14 cities and Hyderabad is on the list. Other cities include Mumbai, Delhi, Bangalore, Kolkata, Chennai, Ahmedabad, Cuttack, Pune, etc. There are several touch points located across these cities, you just simply have to give a missed call on 1800 267 6767/ 1800 267 2222. You will be guided to the nearest collection center. This campaign will run for 3 weekends in a row so you have plenty time to gather up the items for donation and inform others about it too. The method of processing is very organised, each day all the donated items in the drop box are taken to the nearest Goonj Collection Centers. Here they are cleaned, sorted, pressed then they are transported to the local Goonj center and given to the needful.

So mommies, think wisely, you want to donate toys, books, clothes, even buy things if you can afford to. Take your child along with you for the purchase, make them pick out toys, convince them to let-go of certain items that you know they don’t need or play with anymore. Involve them as much as possible, take pictures, make it a memory, let your child know how important it is and that it’s something he/she is expected to do as a good human all their life.

Support Johnsons baby intiative and GOONJ on facebook and have a humble life.

Where have I been?

It’s shamelessly been over a month that I posted on this blog. I somehow was in a writers block and a lot has happened.

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1. I am now a graduate, even though I haven’t received all my documents. My university is yet to mail those to me.

2. I have successfully completed 8 months of volunteer work at Focus High School as a student counselor.

3. My Sunday school celebrated its third annual day on Sunday April 27th.

4. My application has been accepted at the Institute of Holistic Mental Health – IHMH for a post graduate diploma in school psychology. This will be my first official step into the field of educational psychology/School psychology.

5. The daughter will start school in June InshaAllah. I have started to make mental notes of school supplies and waiting eagerly to get more information from the school. I am going to be a mommy of a school going girl! so excited. Have started to mentally prepare her for the new chapter in her life. Both me and the daughter will be at the same school, only I will go twice a week and she won’t know I work there. More posts coming up on that soon.

6. I am also a part of an NGO in the making. more details on that later.

My folks here from Dubai for some work and Batool is over the moon with excitement. I am trying to get myself organised, cooked Hariyali chicken today, recipe to come soon.

What have you all been upto?

Where have I been?

I wish I could say hibernation, but no mom will have that wish fulfilled!

988780_548032251956615_778208176_nTime has been flying by, real fast. I mean it’s already February!!!. I have been busy in the past few months with my exams. I have just written my third and final year exams of B.Sc Psychology, and man am I glad!. The exams were in December, my mother had come in from Dubai so that I could study. So once they got over I had a long list of to-dos to accomplish, frankly I don’t even remember what was on them. One thing I am sure of was “me time” which hasn’t happened!.

I had made mental resolutions for the new year, and well I should be honest, I am not really cut out for this stuff. Going with the flow is the only mantra I can follow and that works pretty good for me. However this year I have given a title of exploration of myself and whatever is around me. People, places, things, books, movies etc. Just going to focus on gaining knowledge and pushing myself to do more. This ‘push’ factor is what’s majorly missing in the life of a mom, truth be told, no matter if you’re single or married or with kids, the inner motivation and ‘push’ has to come from you. It’s the only reliable source of motivation you will have, people come and go, thought provoking proverbs are read and forgotten, but the inner zeal to accomplish more in life should always come from ourselves.

The school I am currently volunteering at as a student counselor has been keeping me very busy as well, I had taken a break from it in Dec to concentrate on my exams and got into full swing after the they got over. Got my daughters admission done there too, I am officially going to be a mommy of a school going child! Am I happy or am I happy?!!
Taking admission in a school is a massive deal, so much to consider I guess it deserves a post on its own.

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My daughter who is 3.5 now goes to the sunday school I run. It’s a bitĀ challenging to be in the same premises as your child, they somehow want you to always be with them.It’s a struggle I shall admit, but I am hopeful. This is a major problem with only borns and also preemies. They’re so used to being around their mothers, that it’s a bigger task for them to let go.

I have also been looking into some social work. I am very passionate about education. And truly prefer giving my time and skill to people who need it.

So that’s the update now, I was also facing a lazy writers block, which I am hoping I have now recovered from hehe.

See you soon……