What makes us who we are?

Here’s a thought that always occurs in my head. As human beings we are constantly evolving, and with the increased influence of media we have become even more susceptible to change. Our experiences, our beliefs our values make up who we are. But how do you know what the future holds for you?

I am not the person I was when I was 18, in fact I see more change in me every other day. I can’t make out if it’s because I am willing to adapt, willing to absorb what’s around me and mold myself into that shape. I can’t make out if I was truly meant to be who I am today also. This is where I ask myself, really what is it that makes us who we are?

From my self-observation it has been the people around me. I am an extrovert, and opinions of people, their body language, their sense of interaction is not negligent to me. I am observant and being in the field of psychology, I people watch too. This year I decided to take control over what I become. Because I can’t control what’s around me, living or non-living. But I can try to keep a list of traits that I want to acquire and a list of those I want to let go of. And along the way if I find something interesting that adds to me, I shall grab it. That’s my motto now when it comes to personal growth.

It gets difficult with our mommy lives to be able to think about the ‘you’ that has been pushed aside, everything else comes before ‘you’ to the point that we start to become nonexistent to ourselves. That’s when the society, the people and ideologies around us attack our personalities, and take away some goodness from it. The areas that needed to grow, tend to get stuck, you become weak as a person. And that’s not good.

As a mother I have learned a lesson from all these floating thoughts about what really makes us who we are. And I am going to make sure Batool asks herself this question. Because that will force her to bring things into perspective, what am I and where should I be and how can I get there. The beauty of inner soul is that only you can control it, if you let go of being the boss of who you are, others will grab it, and then you”ll be like a puppet on strings.

Early Learning centre and Kinokuniya haul (Dubai Mall)

I have a very tiny list of haulage for this trip to Dubai. And on the top of the list for my daughter was ‘my alphabet writing cards’, I first saw it on a fellow mommy blogger and friend’s blog. And while I was there I picked up two other things.

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1. Rainbow my alphabet writing cards- These cards may not seem very exciting to most mommies out there. There are plenty resources for developing writing skills, but the reason why I wanted this so badly was because Batool can’t visualise the small little alphabets in the books. She can’t clearly see the arrows as well. These cards have a larger font as you can see in the pic below. The starting point, and the arrows are big and clear too. The box comes with 26 double-sided cards, and a small black marker. The writing can be wiped and the card can be used multiple times. They’re for ages 3-8years. Focus on fine motor development, writing skills, and learning to read. The child can use the cards to form two or three letter words. This helps enhance reading, and the corresponding images at the back of the cards helps improve phonetic vocabulary too. It was AED 34 which isn’t that bad for a product that’s going to be so useful and has multiple purposes.

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2. Chunky washable pens- I had purchased these 2 years ago when I had come to Dubai. And since the writing cards only had one pen, I thought it’s better to get a pack just in case it runs out of ink. These are washable, so need to worry about them staining clothes or the childs skin. Batool loved them then and I’m sure she will enjoy now as well. Plus having the variety in colour will help her get even more interested in the writing cards. The pens were for AED19 but there was a discount on them.

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3. Flashcards- These have sight words!!! I was so excited when I found these. I have been practicing the sight words with Batool, to speed up her reading. She’s showing more interest now, and I thought it’s the best time to pick these up. 70 double sided cards, and the font is simple and easy to read. There are few plain cards too, for using with the washable markers. The beauty of this product is you can use the cards to help the child make sentences too. It’s for 3yrs and above, and was priced at AED 29, this product was on discount as well. The box looks hideous but it was the only one left, and I didn’t want to pass.

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I went into Kinokuniya to pick up books on ‘good touch bad touch’ but there were NONE! Very disappointing. I did find ‘Hands are not for hitting’ that I wanted though, and Batool made me read it there and then in the store itself before I even purchased it! The book was for AED 34. Batool already has one of the books from the series; ‘words are not for hurting’. I think I’ll pick one more up before I leave.

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I did a bit of shopping myself which was not on my list..the things that happen when you’re in Dubai! Shall update on that soon…

Shedding the weight

For the longest time I was that mother who looked around at other cousins who got pregnantDSC02175 around the same time as me and were back in shape in just a year. The first birthday of their child and they’re looking glam, like nothing even happened. Even though I don’t believe that one needs to become a certain shape or size by the end of their childs first year, I do like the possibility of someday, being the old you. I went through the period where I didn’t want to get out of the house because of how fat I got and how I just couldn’t relate to this person that I had become.

Needless to say I have struggled and still have difficulty losing the weight. But lately I have motivated myself to stick to some sort of work out instead of only watching the diet. I don’t lose weight untill i really move and I always knew that, but I wanted result in the first session. This time my body has responded well. After four years of my daughter being born, I am close to my target pre-baby weight. Close as in I still have easily 10kgs to go. Just so you know I went from a 53kgs to 85kgs in having Batool, this was also because she was an IUGR baby, and I was on house arrest basically post delivery, as she needed the special preemie care. The only going out I did was hospital and doctor visits. And I am not joking about that.

I just wanted to share the videos that I have been working out to, that have worked for me. Let’s get started!

1. Cafe moms 30 min cardio- This was my first, and initially I couldn’t even do the basic knee raise, but now I am able to get through the whole video. I skip the boxing (it’s boring), and the mountain climbers. I substitute the mountain climbers with a similar exercise in the 2nd video. I try to not strain my lower back as it is weak, and I have mild scoliosis.


2. Fitness Blender- 37 min cardio- This video is a great motivator, I noticed the various jumping jack exercises did great fat burning for me. I could notice a difference after every workout. I sometimes did the first few sets after the exercise in the above video. The time graph gets you all motivated and the calorie count too is very encouraging

3. Jessica smith tv 8 min legs- I have to say these exercises looked so easy breezy when I saw the video, but then doing them they will kill you. I do these toward the end right before cool down.

I have understood and accepted that working out has to become part of your life-style not just a reason to weight loss. And I love it, it relieves me of all the stress i pile up. And I am making sure I don’t push myself into an unreasonable routine of working out every single day of the week. For me twice or thrice a week is manageable. And whatever weight I lose in that is fine, it will take time, but I’m in no hurry.

Have you tried any of the above videos or have suggestions? Leave them below in the comments…..And let me know if these work out for you….. Healthy mommy =Happy mommy!

Scholastic haul

The school had distributed a hand out by Scholastic for books to order. It’s their initiative to promote reading at schools. Batool has always loved books, and enjoys it. And I thought this is a great way to just purchase selected books for age levels. So I got all excited and ordered few, it was my first experience, and even though I was tempted to buy almost all of them, I tried to keep in mind that they’re for Batool and not for me to explore!. So I decided to go for books that she didn’t have, variety to expose her to.

The great thing was all these books arrived in separate parcels, which made it easier for the teachers also to distribute them at school. Let’s get some picture in shall we?

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1. Trees to paper- This is a science based book, and since the daughter knows what paper is and trees are, it would e of interest to her. The concept to learn is how things come into being.

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2. Trash crafts- I mainly got this to have fun activities to do with her. This should be interesting

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3. Fly Guy Dinosaurs- She loves dinosaurs, there was no other reason to this order

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4.Night Sky Glow- Batool hasn’t shown much interest in space, and I had once almost picked up this ginormous book at Crosswords on the planets and space and all that beautiful stuff. But then I thought she needs something simpler, I should expose her to the idea first and then pursue it if she enjoys it. Because these space books for kids are a litle on the expensive side, they have many pictures, and textures too, some even have stickers. They make it super interesting. Anyway, when I spotted this on the list I thought this will be a great way to introduce Space into her little head. It has radium content also, that should make it grasping.

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5. Enjoy Phonics level 1- I wanted to explore this frankly, the book is nice and colourful with a CD too. There are writing activities as well, she’s just been introduced to the various lines (standing, sleeping, slanting) at school, so good timing.

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All of these books and others can be found on the website. Reading is the best and safest habit that can be inculcated in children. And the sooner it happens the better.

If you want a detailed review of any of the above books do let me know in the comments below. Happy reading.

working it out through a work out.

These days the stress is getting to me a lot. The everyday routine, the dead lines, the responsibilities, it’s just a mixture of no break and full hard work. One of the issues that has been consistent is my weight. After Batool my weight transported me into obesity, which is not at all normal for one pregnancy to take you from 53 kilos to 85kilos. And no one bothered to make sure I was healthy, in fact I was constantly told it was normal to become this fat. I was naive enough to believe, as it is Batool was a preemie and I totally forgot I was a human being in the process of taking care of her. It’s just recently say in the past 2 years that I’ve had time to look at myself in the mirror for more than 5 seconds. And I hate that I am still overweight and that losing weight is so bloody difficult. I’ve seen my cousins get to pre-baby weight by the first birthday of their child!

Anyway, recently I have been losing weight, I traced my way back to the days that I was of normal BMI, and tried to compare my past lifestyle to the one I am living now. And well, I realised I’ve been eating like I am pregnant, because I got habituated to eating larger quantities. I also don’t have as much exercise as I did then, and I don’t mean going to the gym, I mean climbing of stairs, running around the house, skating, cycling, playing table tennis and other sports. I have since the revelation decided to fill this void. Many young girls start to feel there’s a time in your life when you just don’t gain weight like when you’re in school or college but that’s rubbish. It’s not “the time” it’s how active you were. After marriage most women don’t have 2 or 3 floors of stairs to climb to classes, or sports period, or visits to the parks with parents. It’s a lifestyle issue not time. We can find endless excuses, we can live in denial but always unhappy, the jiggling fat reminding us of the person we have lost.

Anyway point being, I have finally started to make a change, and right now this is the exercise I am doing at home.


I’m not putting pressure on myself, cos the aim isn’t weight loss, it’s a lifestyle change.So the slow I am to more committed I will be after I eventually reach my target weight. I am presently 67kgs, and my end aim is 55kgs. I don’t want to be at the border of Normal-Overweight BMI, I want to be safe, I want to be able to eat candy, eat them lovely chocolate cakes and not be worried. I am not a film-star, the only expectation I have with me is a realistic one. I want to have energy and stamina to be able to play with Batool. I am only 25, I don’t need to feel  50.

Here are few thoughts that motivate me:

1. You won’t have issues looking for your size in clothing

2. You will feel younger and stronger emotionally

3. No more jiggling!

4. Just do whatever you can, whatever you can

5. It’s your body, no one can help you but yourself

6. Women across the globe have children, blaming the child for bad health choices is unfair

7. My daughter deserves a healthy mom

8. I deserve to be confident and happy

9. I will get better sleep at night

I also try to focus on the people who haven’t seen me for a long time to get proper feedback. Like mom, she travels to Hyderabad with a few months gap, if I can work enough to show ANY difference which is visually noticeable than it’s good enough. Also, the appreciation element makes you feel proud, after all exercising is hard work.

What motivates or demotivates you from being healthy?

 

A week in Batools lunch bag 2

Monday: Macaroni and Cheese (Maggi Nutri Licious Pazzta Cheese Macaroni)

I added an extra slice of cheese to make it more yummy.

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Tuesday: Chicken curry and rice It looks a little off in the image, but trust me it’s one yummy chicken curry.

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Wednesday: Okra rice and green peas. The the green peas ruined the flavour of the okra, it was a fun experiment and she did enjoy it, but it took away the essence of the okra. Batool likes green peas. Will try to give them separately next time.

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Thursday: Jam and butter sandwich (Kissan mixed fruit jam and Amul butter) I didn’t think she would eat even a piece, but she ate it all! Definitely going to experiment with other jams, it was so easy to make and I didn’t have to feed her the left over after coming home.

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Friday: Noodles (Sunfeat yippee classic masala)

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So that’s the week. Since now she’s well adjusted to the school I’m going to add more curries and rice/chapati dishes.

What does your kid enjoy in their lunch?

Batools life in pictures 1

Another series where I make it interesting with less words and more pics! Here’s what Batools been upto…

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All ready for school. She vomited the first two she had to be left in class bawling for me. I thought it would be worse!, but she calmed down after day 3 and now says ‘bye’ while still in the corridor!

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Montessori activities at school

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This part is what caused the healing process of being without me, nobody compares the slides!

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Her first weekday family event, this frock is gift. I love the shoes got them from Hollywood at Abids.

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She told me she coloured the sun in class, but just couldn’t tell me how. I later figured it out when I saw the whole classes work on the bulletin board, it was sponge painting!

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And then there was the collage. It’s bouncy Bens (A letterland character) ball.

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Her first ever school homework! And boy did she test my patience.

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The end result as you can see is well….I am happy! I didn’t think she would sit through it all and finish it one go. That’s a positive change I have seen since school began, she didn’t need much assistance, I was sitting beside her for support and helping her pick colours.

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The obsession with books continues, I am running out of space, I have to get her a proper storage space for her many books. Batools totally loving reading,I thought maybe she would get over them once school starts and she’s exposed to various fun activities, but strangely enough it’s not so. I am glad! Will do a detailed post on her book collection so far, and her favourites with some tips.

That’s the round up mommies……..Many more interesting posts coming up..

Hello and introduction

Hello all you hardworking, tired, frustrated, exhausted, multitasking moms out there! I am here to remove the lonely feeling that comes being part of the madness called motherhood.DSC01998

There are good days and bad days, and well, we have a task to keep our heads above the water and not lose our own identity in the process of attaining perfection. Welcome to my blog, let’s have a conversation, share our experiences and spread the love of motherhood, Hyderabadi style.

This blog is all about being a mom in India; specifically in Hyderabad. We have our own issues, our own fun times and our own little world. I will be sharing motherhood advice, education tips and tricks, fashion information etc. and all in all keep you updated and in tune with the you, that has maybe got lost.

Have fun and happy reading moms! you deserve the best!